Spotting and “outing” a child predator can be one of the most gut wrenching and emotionally devastating act a parent of a child will ever have to perform. It involves looking at the truth, not what you have been trained to believe is the truth, not what you have been controlled to believe is the truth, but really is going on in your own home or with people you thought you knew and that you respected and trusted. The child predator may turn out to be your own husband or wife, a member of your immediate family, your priest or religious leader, the scout troop leader, your baby sitter or even your child’s teacher or soccer coach and lastly some loser the child met on the internet.
A Child Can't Fight a Predator Alone
A child predator or molester is very experienced at his task. He will look of people who need someone to trust like a single mother, a divorcing family, a child of a broken home or a child without parents in the immediate neighborhood. The more emotionally troubled the child and the parent the easier the mark. The first thing the predator will do is attempt to establish a relationship of trust with the parent and with the child. This trust will be useful in covering his tracks when he does go after the child to get what he really wants. The predator want access and alone time with the child and he doesn’t want the parent to be concerned as to what he is doing. When he molests the child he will endeavor to convince the child that everything that happened was the child’s fault in order to control the child and to begin a regime of quilt and shame that will usually stop the child from telling his parents what his Uncle or his Step dad has been doing to him. Or maybe the child reasons something like if she tells her father that his brother is raping her at night that her father will get his gun and shot the brother with it and so she remains silent.
Get Legal Help
A child is helpless if a predator is after him. Get help as soon as possible. Contact a lawyer and ask him for help even if you fear that you cannot pay him. We have to work together to keep our children safe. A lawyer can quietly arrange to have the court issue an emergency protective order barring the predator from having any contact with the parent or the child and if the order is violated the predator will be jailed.
